OUR STORY & VISION

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 "Several years ago, my life was perfect on paper. All the boxes were checked off: I had a husband, two daughters, I owned a business and I was living my life just like I was, already a best-selling author. I am a speaker, a coach, and I have a voice in the community and just really enjoy helping people and living the life that I've always wanted to live. And then all of a sudden, it felt like the rug got pulled out from underneath. I felt like I was tumbling in the air, in slow motion. I felt so lost, I didn't even know what was right or left, up or down, everything was turned inside out. My marriage ended, and I was so heartbroken. When my two little girls (who were four and seven at the time) came running to my side and said “Mommy, are you okay?” in their tiny little voices, that's when I had a flashback to when I was six years old and I felt the same way trying to save my mom. And that's when I realized that this was a generational curse, or pattern. And as soon as I realized that revelation, I knew I had to be the chain breaker. I had to be the one to make it different for my daughters, and God gave me two girls for a reason.

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I've been a female empowerment coach for 15 years. And so I got help very quickly. I shut down my brick and mortar (which was a school for children), I grabbed my two girls, and we left. We ran with very little money, and we started over on food stamps and ate from the food bank. It was just so hard. Being the only daughter and the youngest child of two immigrants from Taiwan, I had a culture that raised me to be a commodity for men. I was supposed to be well educated, spoken, well put together, well dressed. But never to be heard. I had no voice, only to be the power behind the man so that he could be ultra successful, but I had to not ever show him how strong and smart I was so that he wasn't intimidated. These were the things that I was taught very young. I thought being Americanized that I overcame it, until I got married and became a wife and a mother, and those subconscious blueprints got activated. It took years to realize that I was repeating the same pattern that my mom did, and it was very scary to leave. Nobody gets married, to have a husband and kids, to then want to leave. But I did it because I wanted something different for them and for me, and they gave me the courage to do so. 

That’s why it's called Wings to Fly Foundation. Because when they asked me that question, they became the two wings on my back that gave me the courage to fly."